marriage


Today is my 4th wedding anniversary , but we are going through a financially challenging time, so my husband and I both agreed not to spend any money on gifts for each other so I wasn't expecting anything special for today. To my surprise, when I came downstairs this morning, I found a bouquet of the most beautiful wild flowers that my husband had picked from a near by field at 6am. What a thoughtful and beautiful gift!

GENUINE AFFECTION


It’s about that time I usually bid my day a bye with a sigh of satisfaction escaping my closed lips. It doesn’t actually escape, it involuntarily sets itself free. The day has been long and tiring and trying to cope with Eve’s misdemeanor. She is the first of our species to find out that all that glitters are illegal or unworthy. The whole humanity now is painfully toiling in order to pluck the fruits and accord hunger a decent send off.

I slide my tired body, carefully, as if it hurt or afraid to disturb a nocturnal creature who had made a sojourn in my bed, inside my sheets. Relief greeted me, accompanied by a muted sigh as the mind went back to the parting day, assessing the successes and the pitfalls that came along. Lessons appeared triumphant.

The day is never a day-well-spent when you do not wish a dearly beloved a good night. I have had trouble many mornings preceding the nights I slept without bidding her a good night. I forget on purpose (ask any man) but the questions you get the morning after only allow her to make assumptions because I have never answered them satisfactorily. Now am thinking of her. She has brought the real meaning of living, the real feel of love. She genuinely adores me and I do more than her.

As a fumbled with the keys of my phone, trying to mix words, in a bid to come up with a deep poem for her, the phone rang. I smiled as I read ‘sweetheart’ as I had saved her. The ringtone helped increase the pace of my heartbeat. It was a song that drove her to the point of ecstasy, of course after me. So many times she rang me, often when I am trying to text her, or when am reaching for my phone to call her. Love brings forth pleasant coincidence, the kind that you want to happen every day.

I really love her. The joy of my life is to see her happy always. I don’t anything or anybody to harm her because I’m her soldier ready to fight every war that life pit against us. Distance though has robbed us the chance to show the affection eye to eye, hold each other close and our breathes being swallowed by our silent whispers heard far away. She is the realest thing I hold with utmost care like a treasure.

I picked up the phone and her soft voice drove me to world that surpassed the abundance of the bliss heaven had on offer. She tickled me into frenzy with an unsettling sensation going through my body like a ripple. I wanted her there and then. If the urge would have enabled men to grow wings I would have been the first one after Daedalus and Icarus, from the tales we read while growing up.

I listened as she talked making her know I was paying attention. Silence sometimes prompts one to make an inquiry if they are speaking alone or otherwise. What’s more beautiful than being missed by somebody you love? What’s the most awesome thing in the world than being important to somebody and being treasured more than you do to your own self? It’s a feeling that transcends everything.

The lengthy talk is always brought to a denouement by good night wishes and the sweet dreams. The byes aren’t my cup of tea. I always conclude a conversation with a ‘take care’. I never know why but I always want her to great care not dream of nightmares.

As the sound of the phone hanging up came through, I was plunged into my own world. I stared at the text I was about to send; my sweetheart, you are a rare being in the world for showing me what it means to love and I will give you my genuine affection…….it sounds like a teenage love letter but that was the message I intended to pass her, plus a couple of hugs and kisses, toppling with I love you. I drifted off holding my phone.

I woke up in the morning to find everything deleted except GENUINE AFFECTION on the text. I smiled knowing there was more truth than those two words.

Sunday, 23 February 2014

For Jason Collins, the next nine days are very important

Since the widespread hope here is that stories like this one eventually become non-stories and the acceptance of homosexuality becomes even more the norm rather than the exception, we start with this sobering reality about Jason Collins and his historic decision to sign a 10-day contract with the Brooklyn Nets on Sunday.
He had better spend these next nine days knocking heads and making good use of all six of his fouls, lest he find himself unemployed again soon.
The 35-year-old Collins became the first openly gay player in all four major North American professional sports nearly 10 months after announcing his sexuality. Along with the extremely positive proposition that he could have a greater social impact now that he's employed to play basketball again comes the truth about the the NBA: Good jobs are hard to find and even harder to keep
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With the Nets plotting their playoff push and having considered the likes of the Los Angeles Lakers' Jordan Hill (via trade) and big man Glen Davis (via free agency) before choosing Collins to add badly-needed depth down low, his first order of duty is to earn a second 10-day contract. From there, the Nets would — per the rules of the NBA's collective bargaining agreement — have to decide whether he'll be with them for the rest of the season or if this sensational story will be coming to an anticlimactic end.
Nets officials who went looking for frontcourt help because of a season-ending injury to center Brook Lopez in early January were quick to clarify their collective state of mind in relation to the Collins signing Sunday, with general manager Billy King saying in a release, "The decision to sign Jason was a basketball decision."
It was a subtle-but-fitting statement, a reminder that — as Oklahoma City Thunder star Kevin Durant would say while unofficially speaking for so many others — "(Collins is a) physical, physical center that plays his tail off. That's all we should worry about, is how he plays basketball."
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Still, in this world of men's professional sports that has been so behind the times on this issue, this was nothing short of momentous. And Brooklyn's part in it — both as a team and as a city — can't be overstated.
In the same place that gave Jackie Robinson his first shot at equality in 1947 when he became the first African-American player in Major League Baseball, Collins will now join a team that is owned by a Russian man in Mikhail Prokhorov who just sent a strong statement to his homeland. And talk about timing.
With the Winter Olympics in Sochi having put President Vladimir Putin and his anti-gay culture on center stage, here comes Prokhorov to show a more-enlightened side. The billionaire who ran for president in 2012 and ultimately lost to Putin was quoted in June 2013 condemning Russia's ban on "homosexual propaganda," saying, "I think we are breaching the international convention of human rights and freedoms we have signed. My position is very simple: This is a personal affair. It is a personal affair who has sex with whom." Eight months later, his approval of the Collins signing was celebrated in the gay community and beyond.
Michael Sam, the former University of Missouri defensive end and NFL prospect whose announcement earlier this month that he was gay came approximately three months before the draft, tweeted, "Congratulations to my friend @jasoncollins34 - excited to see you do work out there #courage#groundbreaking
Robbie Rogers, the 26-year-old Major League Soccer star who came out as gay in Feb. 2013 and began playing with the L.A. Galaxy three months later, tweeted, "Very excited to watch @jasoncollins34 tonight (in Los Angeles against the Lakers) more importantly I am proud to call him my friend."
Kenneth Faried, the Denver Nuggets forward whose mother is a lesbian and who has become an activist for gay and lesbian rights, said in a statement released by the organization deemed Athlete Ally Response: "With Jason Collins signing with the Nets today, I believe our world as professional athletes will open up and become less ignorant of gay male athletes playing and more accepting and embracing of the whole situation."
New NBA Commissioner Adam Silver, who doesn't typically weigh in on 10-day assignments, said in a statement: "Jason told us that his goal was to earn another contract with an NBA team. Today, I want to commend him on achieving his goal. I know everyone in the NBA family is excited for him and proud that our league fosters an inclusive and respectful environment."
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Last but certainly not least, Collins' twin brother, former NBA player and Los Angeles Clippers personnel scout, Jarron Collins, lauded his older sibling (they were separated at birth by eight minutes) for his ability to be ready for this opportunity.
"The word that comes to mind is 'dedicated,'" Jarron Collins told USA TODAY Sports by phone. "I understand what it takes and all it takes to be a professional athlete. That's why I retired. I can't do that anymore.
"Of course it's not going to come as a surprise to people who have played with Jason. His former teammates, or guys who know my brother professionally, that's what (he) is. He's a dedicated teammate, a dedicated athlete, and that's the word that comes to my mind as far as the level of commitment (and how) he approached each day as an opportunity to get better."
Those closest to Collins say he'll make the most of this challenge, that he'll return to the physical, role-playing ways that helped keep him on an NBA team's payroll from the time he was drafted 18th overall out of Stanford in 2001 until the date of his last game, April 17, 2013, while with the Washington Wizards. Collins' first six seasons, coincidentally, came with the then-New Jersey Nets when he was teammates with current Nets coach Jason Kidd.
In the many months since Collins announced his sexuality in a Sports Illustrated article, he has become a spokesman for his cause and was even a White House guest of first Lady Michelle Obama at the State of the Union address in January. But he has also been training, getting his body NBA-ready again in Los Angeles and preparing for this day that has finally come.
When a training camp invite never came his way, and when teams passed on the chance to pick him up midseason despite having a need because of various injuries, his agent, Arn Tellem of the Wasserman Media Group, kept telling Collins to remain patient and positive. True to Collins' widely-respected form, he did just that while maintaining a daily — sometimes twice-daily — workout routine in the weight room and on the nearest track.
"He was working out in the gym where our office was (in Westwood), so we'd bump into him all the time," said Greg Lawrence, who also represents Collins as part of the Wasserman group. "And he was just doing his job, going to work, staying ready and he really just had tunnel vision on it to make sure he was doing everything he can so if the opportunity came up he was in a position to make the most of it."
If the doubt crept in, Lawrence said, Collins didn't show it.
"If he did (question whether he'd play again), I don't think he let it on," Lawrence continued. "I think his attitude and just his outlook on it has been positive, and working to make sure that when the chance came that he was ready to go, and understanding that once we got past training camp and into the season, it was going to be like something like what happened today, where it kind of happened quickly and that he had to be ready to go. Certainly with the contract that he has now, he has 10 days to prove himself."
The next nine, of course, are what matter now.
"I think the moment is a significant moment," Jarron Collins said. "I know there's a lot of extra stuff that comes with it because of my brother being who he is, but simply put: my brother is a basketball player brought in to play basketball, and I'm excited that he gets an opportunity to continue his career."
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LOVE POEMS

I COULD BUT LOVE YOU*

The days gone by hold memories

So much of all those nice stories

Stories of our lives thereafter

Punctuated by your sweet laughter



Walking, talking under the starlit sky

Smiling silently without knowing why

Silent though we got so much to say

Assured that tomorrow would be okay



I love you so much my sweetheart

Like the abundance of sand in a desert

So is my love for you, so real and true

I want to live forever just for you



In the horizon the sun's just turned red

And my tomorrow is but a dread

If by your own, you won't be there

I will die, there won't be any air



*THE AMAZING FEELING*

The buzz of the phone beckons you attention

It's the love of your life trying to reach you

Friends have gotten tired of their mention

Their presence in this world gets you through

Long and stressful days just as the nights

On dark nights they are the light



It's an amazing feeling to find true love

It carries you way beyond imaginable lands

Swifter than the carrier doves

Infinite but it can fit in your hands

The amazing feeling of true adoration

Surpasses everything worth admiration



*BEHIND YOUR EYES*

Sometimes am caught in a day dream

Dreaming of a dream I live everyday

It's been like this since I saw you

You beauty enslaved my imagination

The glitter in your eyes captured me



Every morning I wake up

It's your pretty face that's my alarm

Telling to rise up to see you

You are a true meaning of perfection

Forever I will be glad that are in my life



I wanna have your heart forever

Coz I've given you mine

Do the best with that you can

For you are so perfect

This love is the realest of al I've known



*I SEE ME IN YOUR EYES*

Like rose petals in the morning bloom

You sweep my feet off the ground

And I fly, fly like little bird making no sound

Am flying to get a kiss from you

Your embrace, the next best thing

After the gearless all night embrace

I see the meaning of life in your eyes

I see me and you skin to skin every night

I see life unfolding in your eyes

I see love-true love



*IMMUNE TO HEARTACHE *

I'm staring at the emptiness you absence accords me

It's like all those days when I could fantasies about you

My breath being taken away by what I could see

But your absence is forever, I hoped you were true



I didn't think there would be a day when I could ask you to stay

And that would be asking too much of your precious time

Now I struggle to go through my days trying to keep you at bay

Often I fail, every time, coz forgetting you feels inhumane- a crime



For once in my life I realized what it means to be in love

It means to wait for someone to break your heart while holding on

It means being immune to all things that fall from above

Coz that may hold you from going on straight from dawn