marriage


Today is my 4th wedding anniversary , but we are going through a financially challenging time, so my husband and I both agreed not to spend any money on gifts for each other so I wasn't expecting anything special for today. To my surprise, when I came downstairs this morning, I found a bouquet of the most beautiful wild flowers that my husband had picked from a near by field at 6am. What a thoughtful and beautiful gift!

GENUINE AFFECTION


It’s about that time I usually bid my day a bye with a sigh of satisfaction escaping my closed lips. It doesn’t actually escape, it involuntarily sets itself free. The day has been long and tiring and trying to cope with Eve’s misdemeanor. She is the first of our species to find out that all that glitters are illegal or unworthy. The whole humanity now is painfully toiling in order to pluck the fruits and accord hunger a decent send off.

I slide my tired body, carefully, as if it hurt or afraid to disturb a nocturnal creature who had made a sojourn in my bed, inside my sheets. Relief greeted me, accompanied by a muted sigh as the mind went back to the parting day, assessing the successes and the pitfalls that came along. Lessons appeared triumphant.

The day is never a day-well-spent when you do not wish a dearly beloved a good night. I have had trouble many mornings preceding the nights I slept without bidding her a good night. I forget on purpose (ask any man) but the questions you get the morning after only allow her to make assumptions because I have never answered them satisfactorily. Now am thinking of her. She has brought the real meaning of living, the real feel of love. She genuinely adores me and I do more than her.

As a fumbled with the keys of my phone, trying to mix words, in a bid to come up with a deep poem for her, the phone rang. I smiled as I read ‘sweetheart’ as I had saved her. The ringtone helped increase the pace of my heartbeat. It was a song that drove her to the point of ecstasy, of course after me. So many times she rang me, often when I am trying to text her, or when am reaching for my phone to call her. Love brings forth pleasant coincidence, the kind that you want to happen every day.

I really love her. The joy of my life is to see her happy always. I don’t anything or anybody to harm her because I’m her soldier ready to fight every war that life pit against us. Distance though has robbed us the chance to show the affection eye to eye, hold each other close and our breathes being swallowed by our silent whispers heard far away. She is the realest thing I hold with utmost care like a treasure.

I picked up the phone and her soft voice drove me to world that surpassed the abundance of the bliss heaven had on offer. She tickled me into frenzy with an unsettling sensation going through my body like a ripple. I wanted her there and then. If the urge would have enabled men to grow wings I would have been the first one after Daedalus and Icarus, from the tales we read while growing up.

I listened as she talked making her know I was paying attention. Silence sometimes prompts one to make an inquiry if they are speaking alone or otherwise. What’s more beautiful than being missed by somebody you love? What’s the most awesome thing in the world than being important to somebody and being treasured more than you do to your own self? It’s a feeling that transcends everything.

The lengthy talk is always brought to a denouement by good night wishes and the sweet dreams. The byes aren’t my cup of tea. I always conclude a conversation with a ‘take care’. I never know why but I always want her to great care not dream of nightmares.

As the sound of the phone hanging up came through, I was plunged into my own world. I stared at the text I was about to send; my sweetheart, you are a rare being in the world for showing me what it means to love and I will give you my genuine affection…….it sounds like a teenage love letter but that was the message I intended to pass her, plus a couple of hugs and kisses, toppling with I love you. I drifted off holding my phone.

I woke up in the morning to find everything deleted except GENUINE AFFECTION on the text. I smiled knowing there was more truth than those two words.

Sunday, 2 March 2014

How can I protect my PC’s privacy, and my IP address?


EB wants something that does the same job as Webroot’s discontinued Window Washer, and he’d like to protect his internet address as well…
Although there are a few commercial programs that are similar to Webroot’s Window Washer — Privacy Guardian ($19.99) and Evidence Eliminator spring to mind — a free program does the job perfectly well: CCleaner.
Piriform’s CCleaner (crap cleaner) removes temporary files, history files, cookies, logs, auto-complete entries and other detritus from browsers and many other common programs. (The list can be expanded with CCEnhancer.) It also includes a Windows Registry cleaner. For best results, I’d run it immediately after a re-boot, with no other programs running. In your case, however, you might want to run it after you finish computing for the day.
As I’ve mentioned several times before, download CCleaner from the Piriform site, and do not follow any scam links from adverts on Google. Also, when installing CCleaner, remember to untick the offers to “Install Google Chrome as my default browser” and “Also include Google Toolbar for Internet Explorer” or whatever. I appreciate that companies make money from free software by bundling “foistware” but it should always be provided on an “opt in” basis.
Both Window Washer and CCleaner provide ways of removing files that other people might see, and they recover hard drive space from browser caches. (Google Chrome can easily consume a gigabyte.) But I tend to take the line that (a) nobody else should have access to your account; and (b) if you don’t want your PC to store files that might be a privacy risk, don’t keep them in the first place. For example, browsers already include a feature that says something like (in IE’s case) “Empty Temporary Internet Files folder when browser is closed”. In IE, go to Internet Options, click the Advanced tab, and scroll down to the Security section to enable it.
It’s not unusual for family members to share PCs, but they should use their own separate accounts. This also means you can give them standard accounts instead of administrator accounts, which greatly limits the amount of damage they can do. This is particularly important if some users are children.
“Switch user” is one of the options on the menu that lets you log off Windows, tell the PC to sleep or restart etc. It’s reasonably quick to switch between users if they are already logged on.
Multiple users obviously share a PCs programs and files, but things stored in user directories are private.

“Porn modes” and sandboxing

One problem for programs like Window Washer is that browsers now have privacy features that work even when different people are using the same Windows user account. In Microsoft’s Internet Explorer, the feature is called InPrivate browsing, in Chrome it’s Incognito mode, and in Firefox, Private Browsing. In these modes, the browser limits the information it stores in memory, and it dumps the data when you close the private browsing tab or window.
The private browsing feature is often known as “porn mode” but it’s something that most people should find useful. It’s a good idea to use it when researching topics that most people would want to keep private: for medical and some financial searches, for example. It’s also the best mode to use on openly shared workspace or cybercafe PCs.
Another way to protect your privacy is to run programs inside their own virtual “sandbox” where they won’t affect the rest of the operating system. This also helps protect you from malware. Sandboxie is the best known free program for Windows, and I first mentioned it in Ask Jack in 2008. It is free for personal use, cheap to register, and commercial licenses are available.
I’m not aware of any good free alternatives to Sandboxie.
When you’ve finished browsing with a web browser (or another program) inside Sandboxie, everything is thrown away. The next step up from that is to throw away the whole operating system environment. This is most commonly done using a Linux Live CD, or by running a version of Linux from a USB thumb drive. This is a good way to browse the web using someone else’s PC without leaving a record. (The Enterprise version of Windows 8 also runs well from a thumb drive using Windows To Go.)

Anonymous web surfing

Note that none of the above will do much to protect your privacy while you are online. To do that, please see my answer from December 2012: How can I protect my privacy online? That answer included some information on hiding your IP (Internet Protocol) address, which is a frequently asked question.
As you know, everything on the internet has an internet address, which is written as a group of four numbers. The Guardian, for example, is at 77.91.249.30. Lots of different websites will tell you your IP address, such as What Is My IP?.
If you have a broadband internet connection, your IP address is likely to stay the same over long periods, and websites can use it (along with cookies and so on) to identify and track you. One solution to this problem is to connect to a different IP address before you connect to any websites. This intermediate address is called a proxy. If you connect via an anonymous proxy, websites will think you are coming from that address, not your real IP address.
In effect, the proxy also changes your apparent location. For example, if you use a US-based proxy server, websites will think you are in the USA.
Several website list free proxy servers for those who know how to use them, such as Proxy4free. However, most people are best advised to use an anonymous web-surfing site, or an encrypted “virtual private network” (VPN) service. This not only protects your privacy from websites, it also protects your privacy from your internet service provider (ISP) and any related government snooping.
Of course, VPN providers can still see what you are doing, and it is in their interests to protect themselves if you do things that are illegal or against their terms of service, eg spamming.
Free anonymous services tend to limit users to activities that don’t require a lot of bandwidth. Web-surfing is OK. Watching videos and downloading large files may be limited or blocked. I often use services such as AnonyMouse and US Web Proxy. (Tunlr is an alternative way of getting round regional blocking: it’s a free service that works by changing your DNS settings. It enables users to watch services such as Hulu outside the US, or use BBC iPlayer inside the US.)

VPNs

If you want a full service, then you should subscribe to a VPN such as WiTopia, Hide My Ass!, GhostPath or VyprVPN. Again, for more details, see my earlier answer Using a VPN to protect your web use.
It makes sense to subscribe to a VPN if you travel a lot and therefore use Wi-Fi in hotels and public spaces. It’s even more advisable if you perform high-value transactions that involve trading or banking.
If you are unwilling or unable to pay, some VPN providers also offer free ad-supported services, such as AnchorFree’s HotSpot Shield and Optimal’s Wi-Fi Protector.
If you need more security and privacy than a VPN provides, there’s TOR, The Onion Router. This was “originally developed with the US Navy in mind, for the primary purpose of protecting government communications”. Today, it is used by people who need to put privacy first, including dissidents, whistle-blowers, activists, journalists, police and some military personnel. However, it’s relatively slow and, for most ordinary users, not a general-purpose solution for internet privacy.

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LOVE POEMS

I COULD BUT LOVE YOU*

The days gone by hold memories

So much of all those nice stories

Stories of our lives thereafter

Punctuated by your sweet laughter



Walking, talking under the starlit sky

Smiling silently without knowing why

Silent though we got so much to say

Assured that tomorrow would be okay



I love you so much my sweetheart

Like the abundance of sand in a desert

So is my love for you, so real and true

I want to live forever just for you



In the horizon the sun's just turned red

And my tomorrow is but a dread

If by your own, you won't be there

I will die, there won't be any air



*THE AMAZING FEELING*

The buzz of the phone beckons you attention

It's the love of your life trying to reach you

Friends have gotten tired of their mention

Their presence in this world gets you through

Long and stressful days just as the nights

On dark nights they are the light



It's an amazing feeling to find true love

It carries you way beyond imaginable lands

Swifter than the carrier doves

Infinite but it can fit in your hands

The amazing feeling of true adoration

Surpasses everything worth admiration



*BEHIND YOUR EYES*

Sometimes am caught in a day dream

Dreaming of a dream I live everyday

It's been like this since I saw you

You beauty enslaved my imagination

The glitter in your eyes captured me



Every morning I wake up

It's your pretty face that's my alarm

Telling to rise up to see you

You are a true meaning of perfection

Forever I will be glad that are in my life



I wanna have your heart forever

Coz I've given you mine

Do the best with that you can

For you are so perfect

This love is the realest of al I've known



*I SEE ME IN YOUR EYES*

Like rose petals in the morning bloom

You sweep my feet off the ground

And I fly, fly like little bird making no sound

Am flying to get a kiss from you

Your embrace, the next best thing

After the gearless all night embrace

I see the meaning of life in your eyes

I see me and you skin to skin every night

I see life unfolding in your eyes

I see love-true love



*IMMUNE TO HEARTACHE *

I'm staring at the emptiness you absence accords me

It's like all those days when I could fantasies about you

My breath being taken away by what I could see

But your absence is forever, I hoped you were true



I didn't think there would be a day when I could ask you to stay

And that would be asking too much of your precious time

Now I struggle to go through my days trying to keep you at bay

Often I fail, every time, coz forgetting you feels inhumane- a crime



For once in my life I realized what it means to be in love

It means to wait for someone to break your heart while holding on

It means being immune to all things that fall from above

Coz that may hold you from going on straight from dawn